Exam week Stress ka ba?

How important is honor is for you? How important it is to have high grades? How important it is for your child to be included in the 1st honor or 2nd honor or even 3rd honor?

Well, sa akin oo aminin ko napaka importante achievement mo un bilang isang nanay eh. Ung anak mo honor aakyat ka ng stage every quarter. Ganyan na ganyan mentality ko nuon kay Charmelle nuong panahong kinder 1, kinder 2 at hangang Grade 1. Pero lahat nabago nuong nakita ko ung epekto sa bata.

Nakita ko ung heartbreak nya nuong nag Grade 1 sya tapos naging 3rd Honor lang sya. Then people say a lot of things about her na tipong sasabihin nila "Ayan puro ka daldal!", "Ang likot likot mo siguro sa school!", "Di ka siguro nakikinig kay teacher!", "Di ka makagaya kay ganito...... Ang bait bait nya di sya naglilikot at nagdadaldal sa school!!" at marami pang iba. Those words dont just hurt my child but hurt me as a mother for i have done every single thing for her.

But what my child really feels even hurt me a lot. There comes a point where in nakita ko nuong umakyat sya sa stage a everybody in class know that she is a consistent 1st honor in her class she made a fake smile. And it breaks me as mother. It hurts to see that she did the best she could. She've done everything just to be on top. And people look at her as if she did a crime. I am a mother and i know how my child feels even when she dont say it. Lets remember that our child is doing the best that she can.I should be the one blamed for i am also like this people who think exactly the same way.

So Im sharing my experience with you because i am exactly like you a mommy who always want her child to be the best and the greatest in her life but its wrong. This is not what our child needs our child needs a Mom who would comfort, care, teach and most of all listen when nothing is being said.

 So today is not just a week of exam its the application im still doing since my daughter Charmelle is Grade 2. I let her shine in her own way. I already have given her the wings. So im letting her fly. Yes i still teach her tutor her but this time no pressure. Its ok to make mistake. Its ok not to be on top. And its ok to make 2 , 3 or even 10 mistakes for as long as you did your job that is fine.

Exam week sino ang stress sa inyo ikaw ba o ung anak mo? Nahihirapan ka bang magturo sa anak mo? Paulit ulit nalang ba kayo tapos ano magagalit ka kasi kasasabi mo lang nakalimutan nya na agad? Wag ka magalala di ka nagiisa ako din ganyan. Pero alam mo pinagkaiba nuon at ngayon. Hindi na importante na perfect ang exam. Hindi na importante ang HONOR. At lalong hindi importante kung aakyat ng stage o hindi. Ang importante sa paguulitin mo ng itinuturo sa kanya naalala nya lahat un. Isang araw gugulatin ka nalang nyang anak mo sasabihin nya sayo. "MOMMY THANK YOU SA LAHAT NG HIRAP AT SUPPORTA MO KAHIT HINDI AKO HONOR ALAM KO AYOS LANG KASI GINAWA KO ANG BEST KO! KAYA NGAYON ETO REWARD KO SAYO KASI GINAWA MO DIN BEST MO EH!!"