Exam week Stress ka ba?

How important is honor is for you? How important it is to have high grades? How important it is for your child to be included in the 1st honor or 2nd honor or even 3rd honor?

Well, sa akin oo aminin ko napaka importante achievement mo un bilang isang nanay eh. Ung anak mo honor aakyat ka ng stage every quarter. Ganyan na ganyan mentality ko nuon kay Charmelle nuong panahong kinder 1, kinder 2 at hangang Grade 1. Pero lahat nabago nuong nakita ko ung epekto sa bata.

Nakita ko ung heartbreak nya nuong nag Grade 1 sya tapos naging 3rd Honor lang sya. Then people say a lot of things about her na tipong sasabihin nila "Ayan puro ka daldal!", "Ang likot likot mo siguro sa school!", "Di ka siguro nakikinig kay teacher!", "Di ka makagaya kay ganito...... Ang bait bait nya di sya naglilikot at nagdadaldal sa school!!" at marami pang iba. Those words dont just hurt my child but hurt me as a mother for i have done every single thing for her.

But what my child really feels even hurt me a lot. There comes a point where in nakita ko nuong umakyat sya sa stage a everybody in class know that she is a consistent 1st honor in her class she made a fake smile. And it breaks me as mother. It hurts to see that she did the best she could. She've done everything just to be on top. And people look at her as if she did a crime. I am a mother and i know how my child feels even when she dont say it. Lets remember that our child is doing the best that she can.I should be the one blamed for i am also like this people who think exactly the same way.

So Im sharing my experience with you because i am exactly like you a mommy who always want her child to be the best and the greatest in her life but its wrong. This is not what our child needs our child needs a Mom who would comfort, care, teach and most of all listen when nothing is being said.

 So today is not just a week of exam its the application im still doing since my daughter Charmelle is Grade 2. I let her shine in her own way. I already have given her the wings. So im letting her fly. Yes i still teach her tutor her but this time no pressure. Its ok to make mistake. Its ok not to be on top. And its ok to make 2 , 3 or even 10 mistakes for as long as you did your job that is fine.

Exam week sino ang stress sa inyo ikaw ba o ung anak mo? Nahihirapan ka bang magturo sa anak mo? Paulit ulit nalang ba kayo tapos ano magagalit ka kasi kasasabi mo lang nakalimutan nya na agad? Wag ka magalala di ka nagiisa ako din ganyan. Pero alam mo pinagkaiba nuon at ngayon. Hindi na importante na perfect ang exam. Hindi na importante ang HONOR. At lalong hindi importante kung aakyat ng stage o hindi. Ang importante sa paguulitin mo ng itinuturo sa kanya naalala nya lahat un. Isang araw gugulatin ka nalang nyang anak mo sasabihin nya sayo. "MOMMY THANK YOU SA LAHAT NG HIRAP AT SUPPORTA MO KAHIT HINDI AKO HONOR ALAM KO AYOS LANG KASI GINAWA KO ANG BEST KO! KAYA NGAYON ETO REWARD KO SAYO KASI GINAWA MO DIN BEST MO EH!!"

I want to be a blessing to you!!! Just me!!

Hi, My name is Mommy Charisse Joy a mother of 2 kids. I grew up in the family of 4 boys was raised by my father for my mom is an OFW for as long as i remember. 

Im creating this blogging site to inspire others of our daily life. Motherhood, sister, friend and a daughter. A glimpse of of what life is it. Not an expert with anything but hoping to inspire other people with the things im going to share.

I am a mommy of Charmelle my 11yr old first born. Having a 

daughter is like having a sister that you were never had. We call her the unexpected blesssing as we are not really expecting her too soon.  Having her when i was in a peak of my career i never knew that i couldn't make it but who would have thought that for 11yrs its was just me who raised her.A lot of people say things that questioned myself if i could really be a good mother to my child. I remember when i found out that im pregnant i was really crying the whole 9 months thinking i would never be a good mother to her. 

 That is what other people always tell  me. For i was born in a silver spoon and raised like a princess with a lot of people around me helping me out with everything. But looking back at the things that happened i would still have a lot of people to say things about me that always questioned myself but as i look at my child saying you are the best mom in the world i knew then that im a working in progress. 

After almost 6 yrs of having my Charmelle i never knew i would still wanted to have a child one more time for the struggle of raising my daughter alone is really a struggle. But God really give things you dont really expect. Yes, your right we are trying for some reason i was convince that it was really hard to have only just one so we did it again. Praying that it will happen again but it was not that easy when we have our 2nd child. It took us almost 7months in the making. To the point where in we have to stop trying maybe Charmelle is enough. And just when you stop you are being blessed having a boy. And then he came our what we called planned child a blessing from GOD. Thats why we name him John Michael. 

And this is my family from 3 now embracing the 4. To my husband, it may be a rough road to us i will always be your lifetime partner in life. Thank you for all the lovc patience (yes patience talaga hahahaha!) and most of all for undying friendship. As Heart Escudero  say " FRIENDSHIP IS IMPORTANT IN THE RELATIONSHIP" So tatay thank you for being my bestest friend. Ay yab you alam mo na un... 

So that sums it up. This is me my family and all the ingredients in to it is a new flavor for your everyday reading. 

DISCLAIMER: Im not saying im expert in life and expert in anything. But im a working in progress. Ill share tips and hacks that i know that help me as mommy and help me as person. 

“[Motherhood is] the biggest gamble in the world. It is the glorious life force. It’s huge and scary—it’s an act of infinite optimism.” —Gilda Radner